Picture yourself when you were five. In fact, dig out a photo of little you at that time and tape it to your mirror. How would you treat her, love her, feed her? How would you nurture her if you were the mother of little you? I bet you would protect her fiercely while giving her space to spread her itty-bitty wings. She’d get naps, healthy food, imagination time, and adventures into the wild. If playground bullies hurt her feelings, you’d hug her tears away and give her perspective. When tantrums or meltdowns turned her into a poltergeist, you’d demand a loving time-out in the naughty chair. From this day forward I want you to extend that same compassion to your adult self.
possibly triggery, so trigger warning for sexual assault?
good links about the difference between men and women when it comes to rape culture: the original essay is here (it’s about proto-rapists and the insidiousness of rape culture and it is fantastic), but this anecdote in the comments section stood out for me:
Not surprisingly, I have a story? It’s pretty long, and I’m sorry.
“I think at this point in our world, we’ve got a really confused idea of the way gender and sexuality works. I think we’ve created this really superfluous sort of like binary in the way we think about gender. And I guess I identify as queer because I don’t identify with that. I think that makes us less whole as people. I don’t need to be assigned to what it is I can do or who I can love. And it seems like we keep drawing these battle lines which are completely unnecessary. So that’s what I basically mean. When I say I’m queer, I’m saying that I think human beings are amazing. And love is an honor and an opportunity. And a fragile thing. A fragile process in which there’s no room for doubt, or shame, or hatred.” — Ezra Miller
More then 9 in 10 people is afflicted with allism, and despite what some idealists believe, this rate has more or less remained steady.
- Lack of empathy, especially towards people with different communication styles
- A belief that how your brain works is morally superior
- Use of vague, imprecise language
- Failure to respect sensory boundaries
- Markedly unrestricted diet
- Abnormally high tolerance for the pain of eye contact
- A tendency to say untrue things with the assumption that people will recognize that they are untrue (a phenomenon known as “sarcasm”)
- An apparent sixth sense for detecting things such as “sarcasm” and “subtext”
- A tendency to view their more normal family members as extensions of themselves.
- and many, many more.
Your child (and you, for that matter) is far more likely to suffer from allism then to die in a car crash.
There is no known cure.
Reblog if you support a cure for this terrible family destroying blight.
(post is snark/sarcasm)
i am no longer tolerating people administering “tough love” to me when i am in a terrible mental state. i have PTSD, depression, and am an abuse survivor. when my mental health is poor, it is incredibly fucking difficult for me to see my humanity as valid. i think that i am worthless and that i am…
I feel like I’m on fire with writing tonight! Someone just asked me to say what I think about intuition and this is what I came up with:
Using logic is like using a mathematical formula. You input your values (intended double meaning), and logic dictates the outcome. If you use logic, but put in bad values, you still end up wrong.